A lot of things have happened since the last time I updated. For one thing, I’ve started doing a little femdom counseling for people (read: guys) in need of advice about submission and their life situations. I’ve gotten some interesting calls, and I think I’ve been helpful to those males who are coming to grips with their submissive natures and their life circumstances.

For a little or a lot of personal femdom counseling, you can call me on this line:

1-800-TO-FLIRT, extension 0604692

An issue that has come up is with submissives assuming what I want, how I want them to serve me. Of course, femdom means that a submissive male serves a dominant female. In other words, he does things for her, and what he does depends on her wishes - or at least it is supposed to. I like to think that I am able to assign to each sub a project that can give him a challenge and an opportunity for personal growth. At the same time, there are things that I need. so, according to this paradigm, subs are able to fill the needs of their Mistress with a variety of services based on their talents and resources.

I picture the ideal relationship with a personal sub as fulfilling each other’s needs. He needs to serve me. Among the things I may need done are housework, yardwork, and home and auto repair, and I can also use money. The reward for doing a good job may be play.

But there seems to be a significant number of malesubs who think that because I’m a “Mistress”, I want them to pimp themselves out, as though this is the only use I could find for them, and my only interest. I’m rather nonplussed by this. Clearly they are projecting their own desires on me by making this assumption without asking me about my wishes.

But is that all it is now? Mistress = forced bi? What happened to the wishes and needs of the Mistress?